How in the world do I communicate with a man that seems to think and act more like a woman...?

I read that book that was popular a few years ago ';Women are from Venus, Men are From Mars,'; except my man seems to react to things more like a woman would!! How in the world do I communicate with a man that seems to think and act more like a woman?





He claims he just can't give up being resentful after a fight, and will hold a grudge against me until the next disagreement. He won't have sex with me anymore because I've said ';too many hurtful things'; to him!! When I helpfully offer to leave, he begs me to stay. WTF?





He is super, super meticulous about his personal care too: he won't shower with the bathroom door open (it must be closed %26amp; locked), he trims his beard twice a day (which seems really excessive). He also takes care of his sexual release in the shower each day, sometimes 2 or 3 times. How do I know? I've peeked in, and I've heard him gasping and moaning softly. When I've confronted him on it, he categorically lies about it, gets fuming mad and walks away. Why the need to deny it when it is SO very obvious??





He gets upset if his clothes, hair and shoes aren't perfect at all times; he always wears dress-type, button-down shirts. He must always be straightening things inside and out all the time - it's hard to relax in a home where you feel on-guard about where you set the newspaper, how the magazines are arranged, if the accessories are pointing the right way, if someone he doesn't think is very neat comes over (she's a pig, but really - she is NOT) etc.





He is just so fussy, fussy, FUSSY about EVERYTHING!! Food is a nightmare subject. It's poor white trash meals every night if he could (meat, mashed potatoes or french fries, no fruit, no vege's, no noodles or casseroles or - God forbid - VEGETARIAN meals - and gallons of ice cream each week). If I mention anything about something, he fumes with resentment and stomps off... and jots that fight onto his mental scorecard (figuratively speaking...) that he uses against me.





What causes this kind of weird behavior?? His mother is very similar - unfortunately, I didn't get to meet his folks until after the wedding... then it was too late. I admit it - I barely knew him when I married him.





I KNOW I need to divorce him, but I'm just wondering - What is going on with this guy? What IS his problem??How in the world do I communicate with a man that seems to think and act more like a woman...?
01. Your husband has a lot of terrible quirks.





02. Has he been in to see his physician about the mood swings? He should. There may be an Rx that will mellow him out a bit. He could be checked for OCD. He's also very Narcissistic 鈥?is he capable of real love? He treats you terribly.





03. If you still love him, see if he is willing to get some help. If he is not willing to get help, you may consider a divorce for your sanity %26amp; emotional stability. He is in denial %26amp; it's all your fault. Nothing is ever one person's fault in relationship 鈥?it takes two, but he is excessively extreme %26amp; it's not going to change on its own. It also may not change even with medical help 鈥?that's just a crap shot. Either way, take care of yourself. See 04. Start taking action now, even if you decide to stay. That way, you will be ready in the event that it comes to 04.





04. If you don't love him anymore, make the suggestion in kindness to get help. Then you must tune him out %26amp; ACT SWIFTY, QUIETLY, SECRETIVELY (i.e. tell no one) to get your financial matters in order. If you do not do these things ahead of time, he will wipe out all of your fair portion of the financial assets. Then get to a good divorce lawyer. You shouldn't go through any more abusiveness. Move on %26amp; love again. You know the red flags to look out for. And, you surely know what good love is.





05. Treat divorce like a business. Get mad %26amp; stay mad, otherwise you will make foolish decisions based upon emotions. Divorce is not a friendly matter, so be forewarned. Also, men who suddenly want relationship counselling are just about to file 鈥?beat them to it.





Good Luck %26amp; Warm Wishes.How in the world do I communicate with a man that seems to think and act more like a woman...?
Sounds like this guy needs to be ***** slapped.
Sounds like any number or combination of problems.





It sounds like he might be suffering from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and/or mild Autism (the two can be mistaken for one another). The neatness and the need for a repeated, systematic and familiar pattern of eating. It could also influence his sexual drive and needs. He's more comfortable masturbating because he's in control and can re-create the same circumstance every time.





Another possibility is that of repressed homosexuality. Not to say that all gay men are obsessive neat-freaks, but if he were gay and repressing it, it would explain why he masturbates instead of having sex with his wife and his frustrations could manifest in his compulsive need to control his environment.





As far as communicating with him goes, I'm not really certain. If it's OCD or Autism, you might be able to find a way to ';schedule a meeting.'; Let him know in advance that you would like to discuss some issues with him and let him know when you would like to discuss them. If it's repressed homosexuality, then you'll have a lot more difficulty working around his psychological barriers. And if he's just weird, then I dunno what, if he acts like a woman, talk to him like a woman.