How do I become more social and open-minded?

I've wasted most of my teenage life by being secluded and afraid of people because I feel that they don't accept me or like me. I guess I'm not pretty enough, or funny enough, or entertaining enough. But I really, really want a social life. My friend was a loner but he was somehow able to get along with people. He now has a bunch of friends, gets invited to fun places, and people offer to buy things for him. He has the social life that I've always wanted. When will it be my turn? I want it now. What can I do? I don't want to waste away my youth.How do I become more social and open-minded?
Social life is very very important with todays society.


i say you just drop what ever your doing now and do something completly diffrient


i would suggest you go on some social sites, thats what i do and i met alot of amazing people


who introudced me to more and more.





And now im out with them everyday


meeting people in real life is kinda hard because they judge you on the spotHow do I become more social and open-minded?
You sound like a whiner. Honestly, the world isn't out to get you. They're just humans.


What can you do? Join a club that you're interested in. You're bound to find some kids you'll like. Hang out with your now popular friend.
Firstly, realize that by you being CONSCIOUS of your difficulties in relating to others and your WANTING to have a social life you have already fought half the battle, even though it doesn't feel that way. The only thing stopping you is that you care way too much about what people think. If you did not care about what people thought so much, then you would lose your inhibitions and be much more open to others.





You are close-minded only because you've been hurt in the past somehow. When people have negative experiences, they close themselves off. Sometimes they are so afraid of being hurt that they close themselves off to the extreme and reject all things that they feel they can't relate to because they feel the need for control, which translates merely to a need for security.





The trick is to just. let. go. Let go, throw caution to the wind, even if you screw up. Learn to love yourself, to accept yourself. You must do this before you can have any worthwhile type of social life. When you love and accept yourself, you will in turn love and accept others as naturally as you breath air.





Look into EFT, an alternative therapy. There are demonstrations of it on Youtube, but check out emofree.com first to get an idea of what it is. The methods this therapy implements may look and sound strange, but they can help break past negative emotions when nothing else seems to work. Give it a try and remember! Never give up!
I can tell you from a geek's experience how to improve your life socially. Being educated is important. Anyone uneducated person can get by socially around a ';certain'; kind of crowd. But they often fall under the peer pressure spell due to their weakmindedness.





Someone who gains the ability to interact successfully with nearly any crowd does it because of an increase in intelligence. You can focus directly on ';how to'; books to get by. But you will be severely limited to certain types of people. Reading a lot about psychology, philosophy, and communication will help a lot. Learning about etiquette as well can help take care of the small talk. It also helps to actually have something to talk about. Staying indoors all the time doesn't give you much to talk about. But you can make up a number of scenarios of communication between two people. After awhile it will help you respond to people well without getting ';stuck'; in the middle of a conversation.
Lol ok look at this way. Im guessing ur in high school, You got 1 or 2 really good friends, and u never really really had a relationship? Well what you can do is you can change your appearance if that is something that your selfconscious about. Which everyone is. Its a normal way of life. You need to just relax, And take a deep breath. ok now open mined is something total different.. You need to look at things different and if u like your personality i would consider to stay away from this idea.. cause once you become more open minded you do things that you might regret later on. Trust me life isnt easy or is it fun but take your time. Be OPEN not OPEN MINEDED for new ideas.. Talk to more people. Just strike up a conversation and make small talk and dont lie, be your self.. That is the BIGGEST advice anyone can take. Now take care and be your self.. CYA BRO!! GOOD LUCK!!