Am I being selfish with opening my home to others?

I am married with 3 children and my Mother in law has always butt in into the relationship. We have a house with a guest house in back for any family members who might visit. She always tell people about our guest house and how they can stay there without asking us first. She wanted a distant cousin of hers to stay there for months ill he found a place, then we picked up a friend of hers from the airport and let her stay for 2 nights, now she wants 4 women who aren't related to me or my husband to stay in my guest house for a week!! she has been begging after I said no and now me and my husband are fighting and he says I am being selfish!


Please if you were in my shoes what would you do?Am I being selfish with opening my home to others?
Find a new husband!!!!Am I being selfish with opening my home to others?
Well, it is inconsiderate of her to do this...but if your husband is okay with it ( it's his house too...and his mother) you may have to put up with it, but tell him he it's his job to clean it up after they leave. See how he likes that.
I would say yes, but make sure that your husband sets up rules for your mother in law. No invites unless you are asked first. This is your husband's job.
Forget that I would put my foot down tell her to let them stay in her house. I would not let four chicks i didnt know stay in your house. They could be theives or whores (I dont mean theyd go after your husband but they could have men come in and out and rob you or bring drugs and give you a reputation) and cause drama in your life
I wouldnt allow it.


This is ridiculous. Youre not a free motel. Relatives..ok, thats barely passable, but strangers, you dont know who they are !


Just because they are women, doesnt make them any less dangerous or honest.


I would let him have his temper tantrum and ignore it


and from here on out, he would be the one cleaning up after these people.
I would say yes BUT, they would have to pay rent for those days that they stood in the quest house, if they want to stay in your guest house like a hotel then they must pay like they would in a hotel but with no room service, and cash only!
That would drive me crazy!! That's a huge imposition and your mother-in-law is nuts for trying to invite people to someone else's house. You are not being selfish about this. Your husband has got to see this. That's the big problem. Maybe ask him how he would like it if your mother suggested random people come stay all the time.