Did i mess up with her?

Meet this girl in work a few weeks back,we get on great and really get on and chat whether that be texing,talking in work or over facebook. also we flirt all the time.We are both very open with each other and have chatted about lots of stuff including sex.So i ask her out for a drink tuesday just gone.She said yes but its not a date and i agree to it.So we go out have a a good time,chat over a few drinks.We talk about how many people we have been with in the past and that even know she has been with way more then me i dident care cos i like her and we have all had our fun even me.So i was driving her home that night and we got caught in the moment and started to kiss and take each others clothes off and she stoped and said i cant do this i said ok..i dident mean to make you feel like this.she said your just like all the other guys,we talked a little and sais i was not after that i just really like her and just got lost in the moment with her.We talked a little more and i said i was intrested in her for her and not sex and if you change your mind just let me know.She told me she had some stuff to sort out with herself.Then we hugged for a while then started to kiss and feel each other but we dient have sex,after i dropped her home and she sent me a tex saying how lovley i am and really fun it is hanging with you.Well things have changed a little since then,she does not come over to talk to me as much as she used to or even on facebook and when we did speak,she said i took advanged and i had this all planned and i saw it as a date,i tryed to explain but she would not belive me.So i went up to her and said we should just wipe the slate clean and start again,she said ok but she is still being odd and treating me different from the rest of people and i get the feeling she just hates me.Did i mess things up?Did i mess up with her?
I think where you began going wrong was engaging in talk with her about how many people you/she have been with. When a guy starts discussing anything related to sex, I (as a woman) immediately sense that's his main interest. Some women will go along with this conversation, but again, it usually has already dawned on them that you're interested in sex only. So let that be a warning to you to avoid such discussions as you are getting to know a girl.





You need to hold back a little. Don't let the kissing get to the point where you're taking each others' clothes off. Ask yourself who was more aggressive about it, you or her? If it was you, she may have felt pressured to go along even though she didn't express this.





I don't know if you can repair the situation with her because I don't know much about her as an individual and what's going on in her mind. The best you can do is completely avoid any s*x talk whatsoever with her. From what she is saying that she thinks you had this all planned, etc, I think you are going to need to cut your losses and move on. Not sure if you can repair this one.





Next time, hold back!